Success

SUCCESS- REAL FRUITS OF LIFE

(An essential aspect that is to be defined individually for a self-motivated life leading to be content)

NEEDS OF AN INDIVIDUAL

Every human being wants to meet his needs.

All of us have a different environment and we have brought up in a different way, hence we fix our needs based on our situations. The fact is that every one of us has our own needs and we strive hard to meet it in one way or the other.

The Need may be the very basic thing to the Need to have recognition and reward.

The very basic need for all living beings in the world is the intake of food, water, air and a place to live and accompany.  And then comes the clothing for human beings in addition to it for preserving Dignity and self-esteem. The needs vary from the lower level like the things mentioned before, to a higher level of being recognized and rewarded.

The Success of an individual has a greater dependence on the definition of their Needs.

Only when our goals and needs are set in the right scape, we can define success. The Success of an individual greatly depends on what they have to achieve at the end of something and gratifying their needs with the content actions they do, in the progress of it.

Need is something that is essential or very important rather than just desirable by an individual.

The success that doesn’t meet the needs of an individual is not special and it isn’t the really happiest thing for the person. Success is desirable for all but the needs are essential for all. Everything that meets the real needs of the person is Success. 

SUCCESS- DEFINITION

Success is an accomplishment of Aim or Purpose.

Accomplishing something in the right direction at the right time is Success. So, it needs some objectives to be set before and the guidelines in achieving the objectives. The goals are essential for a refined aim or purpose in order to be achieved, which is called Success.

Some people define it as the accomplishment of Fame, Wealth or Social Status (to gain Self Esteem).

Most of the people have higher standards in their life and say that accomplishment of bigger wealth, getting the praise of many people, having a higher designation in the society is success as it helps them to feel high, gaining their Self-esteem.

Some people define it as Satisfactory Completion of Something.

The most fortunate people in the world are those who think that satisfactory completion of something is Success. They don’t have comparative standards or values but be content with themselves through defining right standards and desire to achieve the best as far as possible.

It could be defined at times as a favorable outcome of something attempted.

All the things that are positive, when attempted can be called Success as it has a favorable outcome. Though there need not be the completion of attempted things always, there can be something valuable that is got in the process and it can be a favorable outcome while attempting something, which itself will be Success at times. 

SETTING UP GOALS

Most of the people doesn’t think or very short focussed that they don’t set up Goals for their own personal development.

All people don’t take up challenges in life and just live the way by spending days and not really using it. Most of the times we ourselves are very short focused that we just do the things that are needed at the point of time which doesn’t really develop our personality in the long run.

Most people have Goals but they do not have appropriate action towards it, their short term plan doesn’t coincide with their long term plan.

Some of the people have good goals and aspiration to attain their dream and they do something that is relevant in short sight but it is not connected or needed to achieve their long term Goal. In the meanwhile after a course of time, their goals are scattered and become changed without appropriate action.

Most people don’t set up Goals that are more specific to them, they fail to consider their own circumstances, limitations, and advantages.

The unachieved goals are mostly because of irrational or unrealistic expectations while setting up the Goals. Some people don’t think about their present situations, positives, and negatives while setting up Goals. It always good to aim high but we need to know the height at present to move to some height higher. 

The Goals should be holistic, achievable, rational, positive, ethical, and moral with proper Initiative. 

All the Goals set may not achieve desirable results as per our expectations. The goals which are of selfish gain may not be desirable after attaining it. In order for the Goals to be more content, it needs to be holistic by considering all things, realistic in order to achieve, reasonable to ponder, positive to approach, ethical or moral to be acceptable, by taking the initiative to move steps forward. 

ATTAINING SUCCESS

Success is not facing failures at all; it is surpassing all the failures. It is learning from the mistakes.

At some point in time, we may not be able to accomplish something due to the mistakes or unexpected accidents which cannot be limited, during the progress of life. But we can learn from everything, even from the failures and the mistakes, which will be helpful to handle the situations better in the future.

Success is not just achieving something in some way for it doesn’t sustain and even if it sustains, the achievement of success cannot be much interesting and desirable. Success is achieving something by investing our time, treasure and talent for a positive purpose with a positive attitude.

Our goals, desires and responsibilities can be carried over by any way we like and it can be achieved. But we cannot uphold it with a pure conscience and attain transcendence. Success is achieving something in a sustainable and desirable way. It needs hard work, patience, and persistence in order to taste the invisible qualities that are more essential as a human being. It involves the use of time, treasure and talent for a common good and genuine purpose with the right attitude.

Success is not just the Destination but it is all about the path that a person travels and the entire set of steps that a person takes.

Many people in the world think that success is attaining a tough destination by crushing ourselves to reach that point. But everyone needs to understand that ‘tomorrow is not certain for all’. So, we need to feel successful at all the points of life, realizing that success is the entire path that we travel and the entire positive step we take to move forward. 

SUGGESTIONS FOR SUCCESS

Respect the Self and Respect Others.

We need to have dignity, in spite of others view by having right values and thoughts. Then we need to be respectful to other people in spite of the differences or disagreements we hold, to gain them or get along with them.

Build Independence and Build Relationships with Good people.

People are the most imperative ones in the world. We need to have a good relationship with valuable people in our lives and at the same time we need to build independence in doing certain things in which we are able to apply right thoughts, actions with the right values.

Manage your time

Time is valuable and most common resource for all people. We need to spend our time in the right thing that is helpful both long term and short term.

Be Rational with Values

We need to have an overall balanced view of all things in order to be accepted and be normal. The rationality with values helps others to approach and accept us.

Be Wise with Purpose

There is a wide difference between knowing and discerning. Knowing is through knowledge while discerning is through wisdom which uses knowledge. We need to be wise with right purpose.

Be Responsible with Discipline

We have to be accountable to what we had taken to do or given to do with our approval, by being responsible and carrying out the actions with Discipline.

Be Patient with Persistence

All the things may not be instantly available or attainable to us and we need to be patient at times with the persistence to keep going.

Be Initiative with Knowledge (Learn New things)

Everything may not be easily accessible to us all the times and the opportunities may not knock the door always, we need to push ourselves and initiate things by learning new things and having knowledge about many things.

Have Vision with Mission

The broader outlook of many things would be more helpful to carry out the actions long term and short term. So we need to have a clear vision to carry out a successful mission.

Have Positive attitude

The Attitude is the composite of heart and mind; it needs to be set right with right kind of values and standards, to be always positive, which helps us to be content and joyful at all points of life.

SUCCESS THAT SUSTAINS

Success is something that is seen at times and unseen at times. Every right action that is taken with the right attitude for the right purpose/objective is Success that sustains.

We all have our own hiccups in reaching the desired goal and it may not be possible at times. Most of the times we feel successful only at points when we attain the destination and other times we keep worrying, by filling our eyes with tears and failing to look at the positives. Success is unseen at times and everything that is done with the right attitude for the right purpose is Success, though we may not be able to complete certain things.

Success is seen mostly as a material thing that is worthy only till the time of achievement and it is no more interesting after a certain point. But Success that sustains is all that is immaterial such as Joy, Peace and Love that is needed at all times.

Few people think that becoming the richest billionaire is success but success is not the material thing as materials will be no more interesting after a certain point of life when a person lose the real valuables of successful life which are being joyful, peaceful and lovely.

Success is not just attaining Self-Esteem, It is more of achieving the state of Self-actualization, which is knowing one’s purpose and meaning of life.

Few people think that being in a higher position is Success but it has its own limits. Self-esteem is not Success itself, but being useful through our position and fulfilling the responsibilities is Success. Success is all about knowing the self and Purpose through a meaningful life.

Success is not just being Useful for one’s self and achieving self-gratification but also being useful to others with consideration of their interests and wellbeing.

The Self- Centred life cannot be a successful life that sustains, though it may gratify selves. People are the valuable resources in the world and exploiting others for the Self can turn against the self at any time. Only when there is unity, there will be genuineness with each other to consider others interests and wellbeing.

REAL FRUITS OF THE LIFE

Love

The starving of every people in the world is to have the sense of belongingness by loving others and being loved. Love is the most valuable feeling that makes us feel successful though we may face disasters of life. 

Joy

Everyone has struggles and we have to fight our own battle of unhappiness. Though we can’t avoid it, we can be Joyful when we are right, by moving forward, without hiding our eyes with tears throughout because of the present difficult situations of life.

Peace

The greatest longing of all the people of the world is Peace. Though we have lot of Education and needs being met, our ego and Selfishness can make us unsatisfied. Being content will give us peace and make us Successful.

Patience

We miss out many things in our lives by being so much confused and hurrying just because of the fear of losing, having a very narrow thinking. But having patience may be helpful to miss something, get something better and best at times that make Successful in a long run.

Kindness

Though we all have our own limitations and differences, we want others to accept us. The quality of kindness help us to have respect towards others and win the hearts of people. It also helps us to accept others and share the success of our lives.

Goodness

The people are the valuable resources in our lives and goodness makes the people to be attached with each other and help us to be successful together.

Faithfulness

We are integrated with one another either directly or indirectly and we are responsible to one another as we share our needed things. It is important for us to have faithfulness to be successful towards one another.

Gentleness

There is a saying that ‘ Pride goes before fall’ and the quality of gentleness always helps us to be content, knowing the self and being useful to others by living a successful life.

Self-control

We cannot act everything we think, we cannot express everything we feel as we live in a social structure which demands and expects us to have some standard. In order to be successful with the right values and virtues, we need to have self-control. 

CONCLUSION

SUCCESS in people’s sight might be a person’s material Gain but success for one’s own self is the gain of immaterial qualities with adorable character, behavior, and action, as all the material things are valuable and desirable only till the point of its achievement by a person and is temporary, whereas the valuable immaterial characteristics will continue throughout the paths of life.