Dealing with Sexuality

DEALING WITH SEXUALITY

Introduction:

Sex is essential for the existence of the mankind and makes us beautiful. But the lack of proper understanding and awareness about Sex makes an individual to sense it just as a sensation or an identity or as an act. When sex is just seen partial without balance, it could make an individual to be depressed or exaggerating, be inferior or superior, and be isolated or seeking opportunity. Both the extremes are dangerous and again when each of it is experienced individually or combined with others, it would have a great negative effect over self or others.

A combination of sensation, identity and act for pleasure or procreation:

The sexuality helps to identify the gender of the person with the specific characteristics associated for we are designed as male and female. The purpose of sex in its nature and design is for pleasure and procreation, accompanied by intimacy between a male and female who are committed with one another. When the act of sex is sought only for pleasure, it will not be pleasure but it will become a dependence and compulsive disorder. The man and woman were made to be intimate with one another that they may be one in flesh which could be only possible only when the intimacy exist between a single man and single woman.

Sexual Development, Changes and Identity:

The sexual development in an individual is progressive and it is distinct in every phase. Some of the major changes in different stages could be as follows:

S.No	Stages (Range of age may change based on individuals)	Major Changes
1	Early Childhood (0-7 years)	Exploration of the body with Ignorance
2	Later Childhood (8-12 years)	Gender Identity and primary development of sexual organs
3	Teenage (13-17)	Sexual attractions & Stimulations, Exploring Sex curiously especially with peers or be isolated, Longing for relationship / building relationship with gender of attraction, May affect others
4	Early Young Age (18-27 years)	Sexual attractions, Getting addicted to stimulation and involve in self-gratification and even may affect others, Seek a committed partner to fulfil the emotional and sometimes physical needs/ seek more opportunities
5	Later Young Age (28-35 years)	Sexual attractions, Get committed to a partner and have an intimate relationship for pleasure and procreation or be isolated or try to attract / betray and indulge with as many as possible
6	Early adulthood (36-50 years)	Sexual attractions, Lagging relationship with the committed partner but still holds the commitment or be isolated or try to attract / betray and indulge with as many as possible, Deterioration of health
7	Later adulthood (51-60 years)	Sexual attractions, Lagging relationship with the committed partner but still holds the commitment or be isolated or try to attract / betray and indulge with as many as possible, Further deterioration of health
8	Old Age (61 years andabove)	Sexual attractions, Lagging relationship with the committed partner but still holds the commitment or be isolated or try to attract / betray and indulge with as many as possible, Further deterioration of health

 

We are, Male and Female based on the physical nature or characteristics, sometimes gender may be unidentified with or by certain individuals. All the human beings couldn’t deny the fact that they are all the composition of physical, emotional and intellectual aspects. This makes the humans very distinct and when there is a deviation or imbalance in consideration of all the aspects, there could be instability and even confusion, because all the aspects are not just controlled by self but influenced by the environment. Even the gender identity of an individual is put into confusion due to the influence of the environment. It is very much necessary to understand about gender and sexual feelings physically, emotionally and mentally.

Physical Aspects

Physically, a human being is identified based on gender through their genitals. Sometimes there could be some defect in the genitals or even some internal sex organs that the gender could not be identified more definitely through the physical attributes. Men have their own physical nature and sexual stimulation and women have their own sexual stimulation due to the difference in their physical structure. The design of the human beings is very unique and special that everything is very much interrelated which makes them more complex to understand both by self as well as by others. Men and Women exist naturally to complement one another and their structures were designed based on that.                

Psychological Aspects

Psychologically, a human being is identified based on gender through their behaviour. Men have their own style and behaviour that is mostly authoritative and dominant whereas the Women have their behaviour that is mostly submissive and considerate. The way of walking, talking, sensing, in-taking, pursuing and so on varies differently for the men and women.

Emotional Aspects

Emotionally, a human being is identified based on gender through the way they feel. Men are mostly courageous and take lead with less seriousness about security and closeness. Women are mostly dependent and serious about their future wanting for security and closeness.

Social Aspects

Socially, a human being is identified based on gender through the way they are treated. Men are mostly given independence to roam around all alone, get the freedom to choose whereas most of the women are not allowed to act independent, having lot of restrictions with a very closed environment.

Sexual Stimulations:

Every human being who has attained the age of adolescence has the hidden sexual urge or an impulse which could be turned on anytime and completely affect any human being by deviating them from the values and principles when it is not carefully tamed. A person identifies the clear difference in being a specific gender after the age of adolescence. The sense of shyness and search of identity arise at the stage. The person’s way of looking at the opposite gender is no more the same way as it was before adolescence but it completely changes. The person gets to know the sexual drive through many sexual stimulations which could be through seeing something that involves physical intimacy between two beings, seeing the opposite gender sensitively, hearing or talking about sexual things, talking casually or sensually with opposite gender or even through a simple touch or intentional touch, especially in the sensitive organs. The stimulations need not be always external, it could be also internal. Even a simple thought or reflection and self-touch in the private organs or giving pressure in the genital arena could turn the sexual impulse.

Dealing With Sexual Impulses:

While there is a sexual stimulation or erection, automatically some hormones in the body starts secreting and it would stop its activity only when a person takes a very strong turn back to leave the stimulation at that very point or leave the erection unnoticed. Stimulations could be external or internal with consciousness whereas erection is not conscious and occurs when the body fluids are filled in a sexual organ. Most of the people would give way to it by self-indulgence or continuous seeing or hearing of sexual things to get to the point of ejaculation or orgasm and continuous points of ejaculation or orgasm still it gets bored at that particular moment or sexual energy is completely drained at that particular moment. Some people who are courageous or who don’t care about other person indulge in sexual activity with the order person in order to gratify their sexual urge, the person whom they indulge with could be a means for their sexual stimulation or may not be a cause. All the means of indulging with sexual impulses either involving others, materials or self without a purpose would be very temporary and never be pleasing with joy and satisfaction and it would be just vain.  

The means of dealing with sexual urge or impulses differs for different person at different periods at different places. For instance, at the times when the person is alone or in a comfortable place, the sexual urge would be mostly considerate of the physical aspect alone and at the times when the person is in a committed relationship like marriage, the sexual urge would be considerate of physical, psychological, emotional and social aspects.

Dealing with the changes:

Though there could be some measures that could be thought of to control sexual desires such as avoiding loneliness, involving in creative or interested activities that could deviate the mind, spending time with people, fleeing from the stimulations, etc. sometimes it doesn’t provide a solution to control the sexual desires as we are born with the sexual identity and the intensity of the sexual desires are much intense. At the same time we cannot be alone being completely in the sexual thoughts when it is unhealthy for us emotionally or psychologically, involving in some creative activities may be helpful as we cannot avoid being alone at times as there will not be people around all the time. Spending time with trustworthy and beloved people who are really interested in our wellbeing could be valuable to control sexual desires. Fleeing from the stimulations and immediately deviating the mind would also will be fine in controlling the sexual desires. Though there are lot of measures that could be taught, the intensity of the sexual impulses are very great as it could nullify the efforts and make us indulge till the temporary emphatic reliefs are achieved. Thereby it needs a strong commitment to avoid sexual thoughts, stimulations and impulses.

Deviations (Inappropriate way of handling):

The sexual impulses that are untamed would make a person to be less productive in personal and other arenas of life. The person who doesn’t tame the sexual passions will defile the self by much stimulation and defile other when (s) he indulges with intimate relationship with them without a commitment. And it is very true that the sexual passions are never going to be fulfilled even if a person has the intimacy with thousands of other people. The untamed sexual impulses are ever ending and directionless not only affecting the self but also others when they are involved. The untamed sexual passions are only ended at the destiny of death or strong physical impairment.

Higher Values:

There will be great sense of accomplishment and joy that surpasses all knowledge and understanding when a person could preserve the self from the sexual impulses without acting it with someone and waiting to a point of committed marital relationship and bondage, after which they could express themselves which would promote great intimacy that is much pleasing, joyful and great than having sexual relationship with thousands of persons of opposite gender for a temporary gratification. Thinking consciously and constantly about a future partner who is unknown and who will be a close associate may be helpful to control the sexual desires within the self.  

The heart of a noble woman:

“I was born like the man and been welcomed

But still there is a slight difference in the response

I was playing like the man and been guided

But still I need to be careful while I sit and stand

I was roaming like the man and been watched

But still I should not go out in the dark or late

I was sleeping like the man and been left

But still I have to be closed and be cautious

I was standing like the man and been waiting

But still I have to avoid being casual and normal

I was growing like the man and had changes

But still I was restricted and been controlled

I was studying like the man and had knowledge

But still practicing the learning is limited

I was working like the man and had experience

But still I am caught in to a routine and locked

I was clothing like the man and closed myself

But still I couldn’t relax freely even at home

Even I did all that were expected, though not really liked,

The evil eye of the man didn’t spare me from snare

The invalid intentions are behind the mind

Not just I, but also a new born and an old too

Are at the greater risk of being harassed

So, I knew that unless the man changes the outlook

Sexual Harassment will never ease and decrease.

If there is no sexual harassment, sexual abuse declines.

We may not change and influence everyone,

But there is a greater difference when there is change is one,

To empathize and act that woman need to live their life.

Will you be the ONE? 

Conclusion:

The nature of sexuality is special within every man and woman. It could be destructive or constructive. It could be destructive when the person acts out of self-control and behaves in such a way to gratify himself with whatever means possible. It could be constructive when the person acts out of control and commitment towards one person with whom (s) he wants to be intimate with the rest of his life. The act of sexuality could never solve the problem of sexuality for it only intensifies it till the sexual energy is completely drained in an individual. But the Commitment and Intimacy makes the sexual act enjoyable and makes the life more content even after sexual energy is completely drained, that is the beauty of God’s creation and the wondrous disclosure behind sexuality. Sexuality is only one part of a person’s life which should be balanced with some other emotions and cognitions.

Usually it would be thought in teenage, ’Why the problem/ thought of sexuality is continuously pursuing?’ because of the criticism and wrong values derived from friends and other wrong teachings. Mostly everyone say that immorality is wrong, but no one explain why sexuality exists, for what it exists, and how do we need to handle it. Thereby it could be understood only after careful study and analysis that sexuality has influence in person’s feelings of shyness, pride, submissiveness, acceptance, commitment when the real purpose of sexuality is felt and when the act is not just mechanical.

Even if the whole world focuses on power and position, thereby gives authority and dominion to the Men over women, we shall follow what is right by being fair and following integrity.

We shall practice allowing the other person get their rights or privileges as we get it for ourselves, we shall not do an act to the other person that hurts them as we don’t allow it to be done to us, we shall let the other person live their life that is joyful and respectable, as we try to live our life. 

EFFECTIVE USE OF SMART PHONES

 EFFECTIVE USE OF SMART PHONES

(To use Smartphones for learning and beneficial purposes)

INTRODUCTION

In the changing world, Technology plays a vital role, and out of the Technology, Smartphones are most widely used.

The smartphone is a device for Information and Communication between people. It is the combination of Hardware, Firmware, and Software. It includes- Audio and Visuals (Pictures, Video, Letters).

BASIC OPTIONS TO KNOW

·     Popups and X (close) option- Need to touch or press it, when some unnecessary screen popups or else the back button can be used.

·      Microphone & Speaker – Use Microphone when you don’t know the spelling of something but know the pronunciation of the word. You can use Speaker and hear the pronunciation of a word when you know the spelling (using Google translate or many dictionary Apps) or an audio about something

·      Search boxes – Use it wherever necessary by putting appropriate key words (To use the right key work- you shall use Google translate (https://translate.google.co.in/) or similar website/ App- to know the word in a required language;  Use https://www.thesaurus.com/ or similar website/ App- to know the different words that are related to a word)

·      Keyboard- When there is a search box or text box, keyboard can be used to type in words by touching that. Different language keyboard Apps are available

·     Notification bar and panel- The options in that can be turned on or off, based on the need. It has options such as Internet (to access to the world wide web and networks), Bluetooth (to connect to other storage or media devices), Wifi / Tethering (To get/ give internet connections), etc.

·      Settings- Has all the options regarding the device like storage to reset.

EDUCATIONAL WEBSITES & ACTIVITIES ONLINE

There are a huge number of Webpages related to subjects and concepts that are free of cost and easy to access.

Also, there are games and activities that are connected to the subject concepts which is available online.

You can just surf by using the Search Engines (Google, Yahoo, etc. ) and find the best webpage or activity which is relevant to the Subject Concept.

Some of the examples are:- http://www.learninggamesforkids.com/

http://pbskids.org/ , https://www.skillshare.com/

There are also many Apps in the Playstore for Education and Learning Activities.

 

WAYS FOR GETTING INFORMATION

There are many ways through which the information can be accessed by using the Smart Phones.

There are Offline (Don’t need internet connection after downloading) and Online (May need internet connection to access always) Apps. For downloading the App, 1. Turn on your Active Internet connection, 2. Open the Playstore  3. Locate the Search box, 4. Turn on Mic and Speak out the keyword / Write the keyword properly and 5. Analyze and Access the required App

The websites can be accessed through the browser with Internet connection and the search engine. For doing that, 1. Turn on your Active Internet connection, 2. Open the browser  3. Locate the Search box/ Go to a search engine (an example is www.google.com), 4. Turn on Mic and Speak out the keyword / Write the keyword properly and 5. Analyze and Access the required website

 

WAYS FOR COMMUNICATION

Today Communication had become very easier with the advancement of Technology. 

Communication can be through voice, words and videos.

Creating Videos, Taking Photos, Recording Audios and Writing Content can be done and posted through lot of websites to reach many people in different part of the world and to reach known/ unknown individuals for providing information, sharing of knowledge, knowing the concerns, raising support, and so on.

The Social media like Gmail, Messenger, Whatsapp, etc are used to communicate individually or as small groups. Facebook Groups, Youtube, Blogs, etc. are used to communicate with a larger number of people.

 

APPLICATION SOFTWARE AND ITS CATEGORIES

Each Software has a specific use/ application with a purpose. For example- Calculator is used to do basic mathematical operations, Calendar is used to see dates, Music player is used to play music, etc. The different categories are

1. GAMING APPS- for playing, critically think, finding solutions, etc.

2. BUSINESS APPS- for buying, selling, billing, tracking work progress, etc.

3. EDUCATIONAL APPS- for learning/ using new concepts, methodologies, etc.

4. LIFESTYLE APPS- for fitness, shopping, tasks, fun, etc.

5. ENTERTAINMENT APPS- for videos, events, chatting, social sites, etc.

6. UTILITY APPS- for booking a cab, hiring a home repair service, healthcare, etc.

7. TRAVEL APPS- for booking tickets, knowing routes (Maps), knowing places, etc.

THINGS THAT COULD BE LEARNT

Huge number of things could be learnt through the Smart phones via websites and Apps, such as Science, Gardening, Music, Crafts, Cooking, Techniques in different sports and works, Techniques for betterment of day to day activities, etc.

For example- English can be learnt through tamil or listening

By websites such as- https://www.youtube.com/results?search_query=Learn+English+through+tamil

Through the Apps such as- English speaking

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talkenglish.beginner 

"English Listening and Speaking"

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.funbox.englishlisteningpractice
"English Speaking Practice"

https://play.google.com/store/apps/details?id=com.talkenglish.practice

 

ALWAYS PONDER

Whatever the purpose for which we are using the Smart Phones or whenever we use the Smart Phones, we shall always ponder the following things

1. Respect the Self/ Others
2. Educate the Self/ Others
3. Protect the Self/ Others

“ If the game we play or the learning we have is not helping us to respect, educate or protect the self/ others, it is not worthwhile pursuing it”

“All things are lawful, but not all things are helpful. All things are lawful but not all things build up. Let no one seek his own good, but the good of his neighbour”

Success

SUCCESS- REAL FRUITS OF LIFE

(An essential aspect that is to be defined individually for a self-motivated life leading to be content)

NEEDS OF AN INDIVIDUAL

Every human being wants to meet his needs.

All of us have a different environment and we have brought up in a different way, hence we fix our needs based on our situations. The fact is that every one of us has our own needs and we strive hard to meet it in one way or the other.

The Need may be the very basic thing to the Need to have recognition and reward.

The very basic need for all living beings in the world is the intake of food, water, air and a place to live and accompany.  And then comes the clothing for human beings in addition to it for preserving Dignity and self-esteem. The needs vary from the lower level like the things mentioned before, to a higher level of being recognized and rewarded.

The Success of an individual has a greater dependence on the definition of their Needs.

Only when our goals and needs are set in the right scape, we can define success. The Success of an individual greatly depends on what they have to achieve at the end of something and gratifying their needs with the content actions they do, in the progress of it.

Need is something that is essential or very important rather than just desirable by an individual.

The success that doesn’t meet the needs of an individual is not special and it isn’t the really happiest thing for the person. Success is desirable for all but the needs are essential for all. Everything that meets the real needs of the person is Success. 

SUCCESS- DEFINITION

Success is an accomplishment of Aim or Purpose.

Accomplishing something in the right direction at the right time is Success. So, it needs some objectives to be set before and the guidelines in achieving the objectives. The goals are essential for a refined aim or purpose in order to be achieved, which is called Success.

Some people define it as the accomplishment of Fame, Wealth or Social Status (to gain Self Esteem).

Most of the people have higher standards in their life and say that accomplishment of bigger wealth, getting the praise of many people, having a higher designation in the society is success as it helps them to feel high, gaining their Self-esteem.

Some people define it as Satisfactory Completion of Something.

The most fortunate people in the world are those who think that satisfactory completion of something is Success. They don’t have comparative standards or values but be content with themselves through defining right standards and desire to achieve the best as far as possible.

It could be defined at times as a favorable outcome of something attempted.

All the things that are positive, when attempted can be called Success as it has a favorable outcome. Though there need not be the completion of attempted things always, there can be something valuable that is got in the process and it can be a favorable outcome while attempting something, which itself will be Success at times. 

SETTING UP GOALS

Most of the people doesn’t think or very short focussed that they don’t set up Goals for their own personal development.

All people don’t take up challenges in life and just live the way by spending days and not really using it. Most of the times we ourselves are very short focused that we just do the things that are needed at the point of time which doesn’t really develop our personality in the long run.

Most people have Goals but they do not have appropriate action towards it, their short term plan doesn’t coincide with their long term plan.

Some of the people have good goals and aspiration to attain their dream and they do something that is relevant in short sight but it is not connected or needed to achieve their long term Goal. In the meanwhile after a course of time, their goals are scattered and become changed without appropriate action.

Most people don’t set up Goals that are more specific to them, they fail to consider their own circumstances, limitations, and advantages.

The unachieved goals are mostly because of irrational or unrealistic expectations while setting up the Goals. Some people don’t think about their present situations, positives, and negatives while setting up Goals. It always good to aim high but we need to know the height at present to move to some height higher. 

The Goals should be holistic, achievable, rational, positive, ethical, and moral with proper Initiative. 

All the Goals set may not achieve desirable results as per our expectations. The goals which are of selfish gain may not be desirable after attaining it. In order for the Goals to be more content, it needs to be holistic by considering all things, realistic in order to achieve, reasonable to ponder, positive to approach, ethical or moral to be acceptable, by taking the initiative to move steps forward. 

ATTAINING SUCCESS

Success is not facing failures at all; it is surpassing all the failures. It is learning from the mistakes.

At some point in time, we may not be able to accomplish something due to the mistakes or unexpected accidents which cannot be limited, during the progress of life. But we can learn from everything, even from the failures and the mistakes, which will be helpful to handle the situations better in the future.

Success is not just achieving something in some way for it doesn’t sustain and even if it sustains, the achievement of success cannot be much interesting and desirable. Success is achieving something by investing our time, treasure and talent for a positive purpose with a positive attitude.

Our goals, desires and responsibilities can be carried over by any way we like and it can be achieved. But we cannot uphold it with a pure conscience and attain transcendence. Success is achieving something in a sustainable and desirable way. It needs hard work, patience, and persistence in order to taste the invisible qualities that are more essential as a human being. It involves the use of time, treasure and talent for a common good and genuine purpose with the right attitude.

Success is not just the Destination but it is all about the path that a person travels and the entire set of steps that a person takes.

Many people in the world think that success is attaining a tough destination by crushing ourselves to reach that point. But everyone needs to understand that ‘tomorrow is not certain for all’. So, we need to feel successful at all the points of life, realizing that success is the entire path that we travel and the entire positive step we take to move forward. 

SUGGESTIONS FOR SUCCESS

Respect the Self and Respect Others.

We need to have dignity, in spite of others view by having right values and thoughts. Then we need to be respectful to other people in spite of the differences or disagreements we hold, to gain them or get along with them.

Build Independence and Build Relationships with Good people.

People are the most imperative ones in the world. We need to have a good relationship with valuable people in our lives and at the same time we need to build independence in doing certain things in which we are able to apply right thoughts, actions with the right values.

Manage your time

Time is valuable and most common resource for all people. We need to spend our time in the right thing that is helpful both long term and short term.

Be Rational with Values

We need to have an overall balanced view of all things in order to be accepted and be normal. The rationality with values helps others to approach and accept us.

Be Wise with Purpose

There is a wide difference between knowing and discerning. Knowing is through knowledge while discerning is through wisdom which uses knowledge. We need to be wise with right purpose.

Be Responsible with Discipline

We have to be accountable to what we had taken to do or given to do with our approval, by being responsible and carrying out the actions with Discipline.

Be Patient with Persistence

All the things may not be instantly available or attainable to us and we need to be patient at times with the persistence to keep going.

Be Initiative with Knowledge (Learn New things)

Everything may not be easily accessible to us all the times and the opportunities may not knock the door always, we need to push ourselves and initiate things by learning new things and having knowledge about many things.

Have Vision with Mission

The broader outlook of many things would be more helpful to carry out the actions long term and short term. So we need to have a clear vision to carry out a successful mission.

Have Positive attitude

The Attitude is the composite of heart and mind; it needs to be set right with right kind of values and standards, to be always positive, which helps us to be content and joyful at all points of life.

SUCCESS THAT SUSTAINS

Success is something that is seen at times and unseen at times. Every right action that is taken with the right attitude for the right purpose/objective is Success that sustains.

We all have our own hiccups in reaching the desired goal and it may not be possible at times. Most of the times we feel successful only at points when we attain the destination and other times we keep worrying, by filling our eyes with tears and failing to look at the positives. Success is unseen at times and everything that is done with the right attitude for the right purpose is Success, though we may not be able to complete certain things.

Success is seen mostly as a material thing that is worthy only till the time of achievement and it is no more interesting after a certain point. But Success that sustains is all that is immaterial such as Joy, Peace and Love that is needed at all times.

Few people think that becoming the richest billionaire is success but success is not the material thing as materials will be no more interesting after a certain point of life when a person lose the real valuables of successful life which are being joyful, peaceful and lovely.

Success is not just attaining Self-Esteem, It is more of achieving the state of Self-actualization, which is knowing one’s purpose and meaning of life.

Few people think that being in a higher position is Success but it has its own limits. Self-esteem is not Success itself, but being useful through our position and fulfilling the responsibilities is Success. Success is all about knowing the self and Purpose through a meaningful life.

Success is not just being Useful for one’s self and achieving self-gratification but also being useful to others with consideration of their interests and wellbeing.

The Self- Centred life cannot be a successful life that sustains, though it may gratify selves. People are the valuable resources in the world and exploiting others for the Self can turn against the self at any time. Only when there is unity, there will be genuineness with each other to consider others interests and wellbeing.

REAL FRUITS OF THE LIFE

Love

The starving of every people in the world is to have the sense of belongingness by loving others and being loved. Love is the most valuable feeling that makes us feel successful though we may face disasters of life. 

Joy

Everyone has struggles and we have to fight our own battle of unhappiness. Though we can’t avoid it, we can be Joyful when we are right, by moving forward, without hiding our eyes with tears throughout because of the present difficult situations of life.

Peace

The greatest longing of all the people of the world is Peace. Though we have lot of Education and needs being met, our ego and Selfishness can make us unsatisfied. Being content will give us peace and make us Successful.

Patience

We miss out many things in our lives by being so much confused and hurrying just because of the fear of losing, having a very narrow thinking. But having patience may be helpful to miss something, get something better and best at times that make Successful in a long run.

Kindness

Though we all have our own limitations and differences, we want others to accept us. The quality of kindness help us to have respect towards others and win the hearts of people. It also helps us to accept others and share the success of our lives.

Goodness

The people are the valuable resources in our lives and goodness makes the people to be attached with each other and help us to be successful together.

Faithfulness

We are integrated with one another either directly or indirectly and we are responsible to one another as we share our needed things. It is important for us to have faithfulness to be successful towards one another.

Gentleness

There is a saying that ‘ Pride goes before fall’ and the quality of gentleness always helps us to be content, knowing the self and being useful to others by living a successful life.

Self-control

We cannot act everything we think, we cannot express everything we feel as we live in a social structure which demands and expects us to have some standard. In order to be successful with the right values and virtues, we need to have self-control. 

CONCLUSION

SUCCESS in people’s sight might be a person’s material Gain but success for one’s own self is the gain of immaterial qualities with adorable character, behavior, and action, as all the material things are valuable and desirable only till the point of its achievement by a person and is temporary, whereas the valuable immaterial characteristics will continue throughout the paths of life.