Dignity

1.       DIGNITY:

(Knowing Ourselves and our Worth)

INTRODUCTION:

Everyone is unique in our tastes and interests but the problem with most of us is, we don’t realize and acknowledge our worth with the values and standards that really gratify us. This has both a positive and negative influence on our surroundings.

If a person could say to himself as it follows,

“I am strong because I know my weaknesses

I am beautiful because I am aware of my flaws

I am fearless because I learned to recognize, illusion from real

I am wise because I learn from my mistakes

I am a lover because I have felt hate and

I can laugh because I have known sadness

I love myself”

-          Anonymous

Then that person will be the best one with Love, Joy, and Peace. Dignity helps us to love ourselves and realize the fact that nobody is going to love us unless we love ourselves. It also helps us to know ourselves, how worthy we are and thereby how worthy we should be.

What’s Your Worth?

Some people set their hearts to earn much money, Power or Prosperity, but all of it becomes useless if a person doesn’t have Dignity. Every human being is worthier than Crores of Indian Rupees or Billion American Dollars or Trillion Grams of Gold or even Centillion Carats of Diamond.

Every person is unique, special and worthier than any material thing in this world. Still, many people lose themselves forever, for the sake of temporary material gain. Dignity helps us to realize the fact that a person could earn anything in the world through self but not the self through any other material thing in this world.

DIGNITY

Dignity is what people keep for preserving self-respect. It’s not what the people keep when someone praises for their Selfish Gain. Dignity is something that is very personal and internal, that comes within us by examining, analyzing and admiring ourselves.

It’s love, care, and Respect for Oneself. Dignity is not selfishness but taking the self with care from all the perils, loving the self by gratifying our genuine desires, and having respect for the self through the right attitude and right actions we do.

One with dignity demands respect because their acts are formal. Dignity is not only having self-respect but because of having self-respect, we start demanding Respect from others and act in a much acceptable and formal way to demand respect.

Acting with dignity can also mean navigating through a situation with eloquence without losing one's coolness. Having Dignity doesn’t make us idol but helps us to alter ourselves according to the situations in our own way of expression and fluency without losing hope, whatever the situation may be.

One can lose their dignity temporarily but later gain it back. Every one of us has emotionally and intellectually difficult times in our life. There will be times we may feel very haste and lose hope upon ourselves. Still, when we realize ourselves, correct ourselves and learn from the mistakes, we would be able to gain our Dignity back.

GAINING DIGNITY

Be Rational

We should have a valid reason and purpose in everything we do. This helps us to know what we do and why we do. When we are thinking and doing things, we would be able to learn new things and gain Dignity.

Be Confident

We should trust ourselves in things that we know and we had come across. And we should feel confident to do things in the best way we could, without comparing ourselves with others.

Be Responsible

We should complete the assigned and taken tasks or keep the vows which we had obliged, whatever the situation may be. We should pursue our responsibility when we feel confident over us, or when someone feels confident over us. We should feel responsible for our success as well as failures because we are involved in it either directly or indirectly. We should take responsibility for everything we did and everything we failed to do, in order to gain Dignity.

Be Initiative

No opportunity will be waiting for us, compelling us to take it. We need to be an initiative to be effective in our thoughts and actions. We should make use of every opportunity that is suitable for us and before us, to be successful in our life. By being initiative, we gain Dignity.

Be Attentive

We should be always cautious and do not allow other people to misrule us. We should be attentive for being responsible and handling the situations appropriately, thereby gaining Dignity.

Accept your mistakes and correct them

No men are perfect in the face of this Earth. Mistakes are obvious and occur either knowingly or unknowingly. Still, most of us act to defend themselves to show the selves perfect. It degrades our values and we will never try to correct our mistakes if we start defending ourselves to cover our flaws. Accepting mistakes and the attempt to correct it helps us to gain Dignity.

Set up your Personal Values

Personal Values are derived from the personal beliefs of a person, which is usually influenced by various factors in the surroundings. Everyone should define the best standard personal values that are valued and worthy to be practiced by themselves. When the Personal values are caught in a negative way, the person may try to gratify himself directionless and slowly lose Dignity.

Stand for what you are Right

We should always stand for what is right, even during various difficulties of life. When we start compromising the values, we don’t feel our real worth and make ourselves carried away by various situations of life, we may thereby lose our confidence and lose Dignity. We may also start living a life without the essence of what we really want to be. Standing for what is right helps us to gain Dignity.

Manage your Time

Time is a much essential factor for each one of us. The right usage of time helps us to be efficient in life. When we don’t manage our time well, we won’t be able to fulfill our responsibilities and thereby lose dignity. Managing the time well helps us to accomplish all the things that are supposed to be done, as well as learn many new things, which helps to gain Dignity.

Develop your Skills

The advancement of Human beings throughout history is accompanied by the development of new skills. The evolution of human development would have been stopped if people had stopped developing themselves. To cope with the advancements and technology we need to develop our skills in order to preserve our Dignity amid many vigorous competitions.

Have a Positive Attitude

Our attitude is the major factor that designs our Dignity. Though everything around us may be well or even if everything around is worse, it is very much important how we take it and react towards it. There will be always happenings around us that influence us, but it is our responsibility to come out of it and react rightly towards it. We should always have a positive attitude towards everything in our life to sustain in Dignity.

Focus on your Goals

Many times, people are directionless and they only do whatever is needed at a point of time. We need to have short term and long term Goals that is attained through the interests and values we have in our life. Goals help us to be stay focused and act appropriately. It always helps us to gain Dignity. 

PREVENTING THE LOSS OF DIGNITY:

Don’t do something you don’t know unless you have the balanced confidence to handle it (On the other hand, though you may not be familiar with something, you can try it if you have confidence).           

We all have confidence about certain things in our life which are usually familiar to us and within our ability, to be handled. Still, sometimes we have overconfidence when we wish to prove ourselves worthy or want to overdo our ability. At times it works, but it is also necessary to humble and accept the things that we can’t do, or humbly claim to try it out with the best part of us. When we have false confidence and boast ourselves in something we don’t know and we are never used to, then we may become prey to others' criticism and lose Dignity.

Don’t get into something that Master’s you instead of you being a master over it

Everything around us is useful to us either directly or indirectly but there are limits and boundaries, along with terms and conditions for its usage. Many times we don’t use things in the way it needs to be used, instead, we become dependent on it physically or mentally which compels us to live a life of illusion which is not really sensible. We allow very insignificant things to master over us, instead of we being master over it, which leads to the loss of Dignity.

Keep yourself happy and don’t allow anyone to steal your happiness.

We are responsible for the choices we have in our lives. We are not able to get back to something that is completely destroyed and there is no reason to continue worrying about it, though it may be the worse emotionally affected thing. It is undeniable that happiness or sadness we have is more an emotion than intellect. But being reasonably emotional will help us to keep ourselves happy in the midst of difficulties and there will no one in any corner of the world who could steal our happiness. This will surely prevent the loss of our Dignity. 

You are responsible for your own environment; choose it in such a way that you do not become prey to it.

Every one of us has a wide range of networks of friends and relatives. And there are different kinds of people around us. Though there is an influence by them over our situation; we have the chance to choose our situation in such a way that it doesn’t affect us.  

Learn from Mistakes and don’t commit the same. In one way or the other, you are involved in it knowingly or unknowingly. 

Obviously, there are always possibilities for us to stumble in different things knowingly or unknowingly. We should be alert and awake to learn from the mistakes and avoid those that costs us in a much negative way.

Change yourself at needed times by balancing your Heart and Mind.

We should navigate through the difficult situations of life where our efforts are in vain. Also, we need to learn to change ourselves according to the need, with careful consideration of our feelings and thoughts.

TO SUCCEED IN DIGNITY

“Know who you are,

Do what you know,

Learn what you want to Do,

Know what you Should Do,

Do when it’s Right time

Be how you should be”

We shall make a vow that’s below, in our Hearts and Minds “And Now I’ll do what’s best for me”

Because of the fact that “One’s dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but cannot be taken away unless it is surrendered.”                                                                       -Anonymous